I'm sure by now you've seen this video on Facebook or some other social media network. I share it with you today because she is doing exactly what we all should do: Living life with passion. This little girl has taken a mundane song that we hear every day and made it her own. She gave her best to make singing the alphabet enjoyable, entertaining, and fulfilling. If we all put that same passion into what we do every day our lives would be filled with joy. I challenge you today to put some magic into the mundane areas of your life and see how much it makes you smile.
Have you ever had a day when everything was just too much? A day when you felt if just one more thing happened that you would lose your mind? A day when you wanted to stay in bed and just feel sorry for yourself? You have? Me too.
Some days it seems like everything we deal with is just way too much to handle. There are days when we become overwhelmed with the massive amount of responsibility we've taken on over the years and it seems like no one anywhere could possibly understand what we are experiencing. I've certainly had those days, sometimes consecutively and, occasionally for several days. Those days are not fun. Those days are the worst.
Now, with me being a pusher of positive thinking you probably think that's where I'm going in this post. I'm not. Yes, positive thinking works and I highly recommend that you make it a way of life but, there are times when it just really is not enough. Here are some things I've learned to do to help me on days when life seems to be just too much:
Some of these activities work every time, some only work when paired with others, and some I do regularly regardless of how I feel simply because I enjoy them. I don't expect all of them to work for you. Maybe none of them will work for you. I shared them to show you the effort I put into getting through those rough days when they creep up. Even if it takes me running through everything on this list I have to make up in my mind that I will not be defeat by life and you have to do the same. This list is no exhaustive. As I have new experiences and try new things I learn more about what works for me. Find some things that work for you and put them to use when you need them. In fact, put them to use even when you don't need them. Make a conscious effort to include the things you enjoy in your daily life because you deserve it.
And most importantly, remember that those days are just that, DAYS. Days pass, don't allow them to become a lifestyle.
"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why we call it 'The Present'."
Trust is such as delicate thing. We can’t see it but it is clear when it is present or lacking. There are many different levels of trust; the higher the level the more painful the hurt when it is violated. Trust is a very simple word but the experience of it is remarkably complex. Too much of it can be dangerous and too little of it results in a miserable life. How can we find the balance? How can we make the right decisions with trust?
For many of us the negative events and experiences in our pasts create barriers when it comes to trusting others. Very often we are so concerned with protecting ourselves and our feelings that we miss out on great opportunities because we won’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable. We have all had unpleasant things happen in our lives that give us a need to act with caution, here are some tips I use to make decisions on trust:
It's been a while and, now that things are settling, I'm back and ready to share something I've learned: we're all a little "SUPER" but most of us are not committed enough or confident enough to use our power. Let me explain.
I share a lot with you about my Journey to Legacy and it's no secret that the past few years have been a roller coaster ride. This year, however, I decided that I refused to continue accepting the situation I was in and that change had to come and would come. Not eventually, not soon, but TODAY. Every day I committed my mind to the idea that the changes I needed would happen. And as days went by that nothing happened I woke up the next morning convinced it would happen that day until one day it finally did. I put my faith in God and the prayers I had prayed confident that change was coming today. Now, I think many of you do this as well, trying your best to stay positive and think good thoughts about the changes you want to see in your life. I found, however, that the problem is often that we stop right there and, for me, nothing changed until I took it a step further.
For the first time I completely committed to not allowing anyone or anything change my mind about my change. I didn't allow myself to get discouraged, I didn't allow rejection to set in, I shut down anyone's negative comments or statements of doubt. I even went as far as the stop communicating with anyone whose speech brought doubt into my mind, no naysayers in my head space. And every day it got easier and the fact that nothing had changed the day before carried less and less weight. And now, today, my change is one that has caused others to want change of their own and given them a desire to pursue it.
Ultimately, I learned how to use my "super" power: The Power to Change My Own Life. How did I do it? By changing the words I spoke and the thoughts I thought to only things I wanted in my life. I stopped being committed to the things I wanted to change and confidently committed myself to actually creating the change I wanted. And you can do it too. Tap into your Inner Super and see just how much your life changes.
In my last few posts I've mentioned some major changes and transitions I've been planning for the past few months. Things are still in the works but there was one major change that I was very optimistic about that did not work out. This was a change that all the other changes were dependent on and, after all I had done, it didn't work out. As to be expected I was disappointed but, to my surprise, the disappointment lasted a whole 10 minutes and then it was gone. 10 minutes and that was it. No drawn-out emotional pity party, no blows to my self-esteem, not a tear shed nor a negative thought; just a desire to move on to what is next on my Journey to Legacy. This experience helped me see how far I've come, how much I've matured, and how my mindset has changed. I really am walking a walk of faith and living this positive thinking way of life!
As I shared with others who had been waiting for updates on my situation I was met with lots of condolences that things didn't go as planned. Some were surprised when I said I was really not upset about it and was still optimistic about new opportunities; others just provided encouragement for what was to come. Regardless of the reaction I told everyone the same thing, that I was content in knowing that this closed door was just an opening for a greater opportunity. Go figure, who knew I could be so philosophical?! I guess if you follow this blog you had some idea but still, I really surprised myself that I was genuinely happy after experiencing a disappointment. It's what we call "the peace that surpasses all understanding", you can't explain it, it doesn't make sense, you just feel it.
So as I continue to see how things play out in my next steps I hold on to the joy and optimism that are dictating my emotions. How we experience the world is ultimately our own choice; if you love it, great, if you hate it, change.
The next time you're at the park with your children and you're watching to make sure they're safe, instead of being the protective parent take a moment to look at their faces. Watch their body language, watch them laugh and smile. Before they're taught to hate, before their hearts have been broken, before they've been disappointed and rejected and failed at something major, before any of the trials of life have impacted their minds, children are innocent and life is great. The joy of a child's innocence is enviable but it just might be key to a fulfilling life.
Think about your own life and the things that constantly replay in your mind. Think about the major things that have happened to you that shape the way you think. If you think hard enough you can probably pinpoint at least two events or experiences that, whether you admit it or not, have a direct impact on what you do every single day. Maybe your family is very supportive and always encouraged you to do your best and that has given you a strong work ethic. Or maybe your parents' marriage set an example for the loving, positive marriage you aspire to build with your own spouse. Unfortunately, chances are the memories that came to your mind were not the positive ones I mentioned. For some reason we tend to be most affected by negative events. Something traumatic happens and, just like that, our childhood innocence is gone and so goes the joy we once had. And, as adults, we just accept it. We accept our circumstances and the things we've been through as if we have not choice in the matter. We don't fight to keep the innocence and joy, we allow it to be snatched away by whatever has happened to us. Yes, terrible things happen to people everyday and you may have a real reason to be angry or bitter or resentful but, ask yourself this question, is feeling that way working well for you? Probably not. Maybe we should try to grab hold of the innocence that living life has drawn away from us. Maybe we can make an effort to smile, and play, and laugh like a child every now and then. If being miserable isn't helping you why not try something new?
So the next time you feel down try hopping on a swing, throwing your head back and letting out a laugh from deep in your gut, it just might make you feel better.